A common goal is shared among all of us: to feel accomplished, loved, joyful and present each day. Whether you’re a dreamer, a realist or a rare combination of both, the quest for happiness can often feel like an ongoing endeavor. Even after accomplishing one dream, we rush to the next one on our list. For several months now, I’ve been doing a lot of “searching” in an effort to determine how exactly I can achieve my goals. In that pursuit, however, it’s quite easy to lose sight of the present. In my latest writeup for The Chalkboard Mag, I detail what I’ve learned from my own experiences on how to remain present in your pursuit of happiness. Read the article here. There’s even some advice for mothers out there, as learned through my role of “Auntie Lulu.” Enjoy, friends… and happy weekend!
Life is a series of mostly ‘boring’ moments. Happiness lies withinthose moments, rather than merely around them.
A mere few hours spent in Malibu is enough to rejuvenate you for weeks. If you haven’t made a trip, I highly suggest it. Despite its ongoing growth, the oasis somehow retains its calmness— a trait rarely found in or around Los Angeles.
I have a lot of personal memories rooted in Malibu, because my family has a home on the beach. So, I was excited when a friend told me he planned to propose there. He and his fiancé flew in from Indiana last weekend— desperately needing a break from the long winter. Of course, I was more nervous about the proposal than he was! Men simply don’t think about logistics the same way women do. Example: the groom-to-be wanted my husband to tossthe ring to him from a balcony to the beach. I wouldn’t trust baseball’s best pitcher with that job. Not to worry, though— we came up with a better plan before having to buy a metal detector, and our friend managed to pull off a waterfront proposal without any hiccups. I had the honor of playing the not-so-discreet photographer all weekend. Enjoy a glimpse into all of the fun!
Welcome to part two ofMind Ready Monday: a weekly write up meant to boost your mindset. This week’s mantra doesn’t make a whole lot of sense on the surface. Life is long?! Typically, we can all agree life is short— time is flying, and that terrifies me. For the sake of our sanity, however, let’s look at things from another perspective for a minute: life is long. It’s something my dad has been preaching for years. Quite frankly, the slogan frustrates me, because I’m the type who wants things right now. I blame the Internet for that.
Like you, I have a lot of dreams. Dreams to host television shows. Dreams to launch a business and a charity. Dreams to someday turn this blog into a book. Dreams to start a family. If I’m being honest, I often find myself looking at life like a countdown clock— worried I’ll run out of time to see my dreams become realities. Perhaps it’s all part of navigating the quarter-life. Or maybe we’ve just come to expect rapidity in all parts of our lives the same way we expect it in sending a text message. Why am I not hosting Dancing with the Stars yet?! Probably because Erin Andrews got the job instead.
Inevitably, this outlook doesn’t always promote patience. Instead, it prompts unneeded pressure. Which is why I need to start embracing the real meaning behind life is long. We’ve got to stop living our lives and making our decisions from a YOLO-state of mind (that means You Only Live Once, for those of you unaware of hip tech acronyms).
Life takes time. Success takes time. Families take time. Dreams take time. Nothing worth working for is built overnight. Be patient. Work hard. Love harder. Expect your plans to change and your dreams to evolve.
It’s a lot easier said than done. But I’m learning my fears of running out of time do nothing but drain me from the present. So let’s work on this one together. Enjoy your life right now, instead of merely wanting everything right now. Life is long if you start living like it.